Do you know what? I was going to write something expanding on this comment my good friend Clare left on this post about caring what people think. When I re-read it however, I realised that Clare had already said it far better than I would and it would be good just to post her comment on here, (it may be worth reading the previous blog first).
‘I guess when I read a book there is no time for that. I tend to galump (yes, possibly a new word) from chapter to chapter
‘Also, the only time that you can prove you are truly unselfconscious and oblivious to the opinions of others is in the moment just before you realise what you look like. So for instance, the moment when you laugh to yourself before realising how that would appear to a similarly employed onlooker. Just a thought.
In that moment you have the opportunity to choose… Do I change or do I continue?
Often your decision is influenced by how much you value the opinions of those around you. Will you ever see them again? Do they have influence in any part of your life and happiness..The question is then are you truly free in your oddities after consciously choosing to continue in them? In my experience it is possible, once you push through the initial barrier of awareness.
Losing yourself in a moment is achievable… Being always independent of other’s opinions is less so. To be lost in a moment often requires something greater than yourself (self-awareness) to grab your attention. It could be instinctively laughing, often inelegantly, at something unexpectedly humourous; loosing yourself in beautiful or energetic music; dancing with all your might; worshipping; watching nature (e.g. sunset); entering into a child’s world; being absorbed by a book… The list goes on.
In those transient moments we simply exist and respond. I wonder if that’s why the step often used as plot devices… A moment where one character gets to observe the unedited actions of another character… Sees below the surface veneer of polite nicities and catches a brief glimpse of hidden depths, mysteries to be solved or underlying character. These moments being transient become all the more addictive. To witness one is a privilege open only to a few and especially as characters fall in love, they crave more moments where they get to peek inside the other person.
Sorry… Just a few rambling thoughts. As you can tell I found your post thought provoking.’
There was absolutely no need for you to say sorry Clare, it really was an excellent comment with insight into a writer’s and even character’s mind. I will be looking into this further with as Clare says ‘plot-devices’ as a main feature.
Keep up with me and I’ll hopefully be able to give you some ideas on how to move a plot-line along when it either seems dry and in a rut or needs an innovative device to get it to the next stage.
(I sounded rather professional just then….it must be Clare’s cleverness affecting me 😉
p.s. Yeah, so no pictures were really apt so I just shoved in a few from some ‘unselfconscious’ period drama moments.